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Category: Networking

2010q3 GGCI Newsletter

The 2010q3 edition of the GottaGettaCoach! newsletter is now on-line at: http://www.ggci.com/newsletter/GGCI-2010q3.pdf.

  • The Botany of Self-Doubt • Topic: Fear and Courageousness •  Subject: What to do when self-doubt strikes and how to manage it more effectively.
  • The ABCs of Good Employees…& Bad Bosses • Topic: Leadership Development •  Subject: Why “A-players hire A-players; B-players hire C-players” is misguided, at best, and downright inflammatory, at worst.
  • What Job Would Make You Happy? • Topic: Career Development •  Subject: Time for a change? Try this visualization exercise to figure out where you should go next with your career.
  • A Noun Called ‘Happiness’ • Topic: Personal Fulfillment •  Subject: A simple way to ‘tune in’ to more happiness.
  • On Being Fully Present • Topic: Personal Development •  Subject: A quick set of five tweets about the concept of being Fully Present.
  • It’s “Nuts” Trying to Get Your Unmet Needs Met at Work • Topic: Personal/Professional Development •  Subject: It really is. So here’s how to get those unmet needs met elsewhere.
  • LeadershipHaiku • Topic: Leadership Development • Subject: More // Leadership coaching / in seventeen syllables / for busy bosses. //
  • Clean Hands Clear Conscience • Topic: Personal/Professional Development •  Subject: Researchers report some interesting new findings about the benefits of washing one’s hands.

As always, questions, comments – and suggestions – are welcomed.

Enjoy~ – bz

P.S. If you’re interested in learning how coaching might help you or your staff, phone (847-291-9735) or email (info@ggci.com) to schedule an exploratory phone conversation.

P. P.S.  The GGCI Newsletter Archives are at: www.ggci.com/newsletter.

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Situational Shyness

Recently, Elizabeth Bernstein wrote a fun little piece in the Wall Street Journal. In it, she cites two interesting statistics from the Shyness Research Institute (SRI) at Indiana University Southeast:

  • 95% of people say they experience “temporary timidity” from time to time
  • the remaining 5% are probably lying!

Per Bernstein: “When I asked people what makes them temporarily shy, almost every straight man I talked to mentioned women. Yet few women said men brought out their shyness. Instead, women said that other women often left them tongue-tied.”

According to Bernardo J. Carducci, Ph.D, and director of the SRI, the biggest causes of situational shyness include strangers, people in Authority, and people we find attractive.

So how can you battle bashfulness?!

A business owner that Bernstein spoke with offered this advice: “I had a psychiatrist once who said shy people need great clothes so they can walk into a room and let the clothes do the talking at first.”

Other tips from Carducci and the Institute — and the WSJ:

  • Prepare. Hate meeting new people at business events? Practice talking to people in line at Starbucks. Someone makes you shy? Think of what to say before you run into her again.
  • Make party rules. Force yourself to stand in the middle of the room, approach a boisterous group or introduce yourself to everyone in blue.
  • Make statements — don’t ask questions. It may seem a polite way to draw others out, but it makes them do the work.
  • Don’t beat yourself up if you’re uncomfortable or if conversation doesn’t flow. Chances are others are feeling shy, and will be too focused on themselves to notice any gaffe you think you’ve made.

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2010q2 GGCI Newsletter

The 2010q2 edition of the GottaGettaCoach! newsletter is now on-line at: http://www.ggci.com/newsletter/GGCI-2010q2.pdf

  • Levels of Success • Topic: Editor’s Note •  Subject: It’s rarely an all-or-none sort of thing
  • How to Get Happier • Topic: Personal Development •  Subject: Five how-to’s to incorporate into your daily living
  • LeadershipHaiku • Topic: Leadership Development • Subject: My latest side-project — it’s well-worth a look-see if I do say so myself!
  • Assessing Your Leadership Capacity • Topic: Leadership Development • Subject: Foundational concepts for expanding your Leadership reach and impact
  • A “Tweet” to Start Your Day • Topic: Personal Development •  Subject: Some Morning Thoughts courtesy of my Twitter-stream
  • Tylenol for Social Pains?! • Topic: Fear and Courageousness •  Subject: Acetaminophen — it’s not just for headaches anymore!
  • GGCI News from Last Quarter • Topic: News of Note • Some GottaGettaCoach! highlights from 2010q1
  • Name it; Frame it; then, Claim it • Topic: Job Search Improvements •  Subject: An interviewees guide to the Inner-Game of powerful interviewing

As always, questions, comments – and suggestions – are welcomed.

Enjoy~ – bz

P.S. If you’re interested in learning how coaching might help you or your staff, phone (847-291-9735) or email (info@ggci.com) to schedule an exploratory phone conversation.

P. P.S. The GGCI Newseltter Archives are located at : www.ggci.com/newsletter. And please feel free to “share this” this newsletter with those in your network who might appreciate it. Just click on the link below.

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Wayne Gru

The the “power of networking” (thanks to Alan Iacobucci of API Consulting, Inc.for the introduction) I spoke with Wayne Gru, a very interesting fella who’s been “in transition” for quite some time now. As part of our wide-ranging conversation, Wayne mentioned that had been wanting to blog about what it’s like to be out of, and looking for, work.

Since the first step is often the hardest, I invited Wayne to post his very first blog entry here at GottaGettaBLOG! To his credit, he accepted my challenge.

So, ladies and gentlemen, may I introduce you to … Wayne Gru:

Well, first my thanks to Barry for allowing me to post to his blog. This is my first blog contribution anywhere and I’m excited to have this opportunity.

I met Barry only recently, by phone, through a networking referral from a long-time mutual friend; someone we both did business with in a previous life.

I much enjoyed our conversation as I am currently “in transition” and am always eager to meet other quality people and continue building my network. Barry and I share many common views, it turns out, on personal and professional development, the job search process, relationship building, etc.

He was nice enough to point out my positive outlook at this stage of my life notwithstanding the current hurdles that baby-boomers (and non-boomers) are facing.

An upside-down market is no fun on so many levels. But, it is what it is. I have always had that positive perspective, thankfully, and have been fortunate to share that optimism (sometimes cautious optimism) with others who are in a similar state today much as I would in that once-upon-a-time world of being gainfully employed.

That positive mental attitude is something that always came natural to me. I always recall my youthful experience of not successfully completing my initial foray into college. I then got a pretty basic full time job doing nothing very special but making a reasonable wage that I learned to save for the most part. Every week as I made my savings deposit, I would wonder what I would wind up doing with my life. I remember as clear as day always telling myself “I don’t know what we’re going to be but I KNOW we’re going to be successful”. (Subsequently, I made a successful return to college.)

The job hunt for me at this point is more down than up, notwithstanding positive prognostications for an economic recovery. But I do a lot of volunteer work to keep my skills fresh and do what I do best, which is “helping people get better.” I always believed that helping people get better was central to not only their own success but ultimately to the success of any organization. My activities currently include:

  • Facilitating a weekly job search work team (accountability group) of professional people, and
  • Working with a state/county non-for-profit organization helping others (from all walks of life) organize their job search and identify their skills, talents and abilities that can be shaped into effective job search tools.

Both are profoundly fulfilling for me personally when you can literally see the “light-bulb” go on during these sessions and even better, when I hear of their successful landing with a new employer. That, in turn, helps keep me focused and positive, knowing that the current market notwithstanding, I do have great skills and experience to offer.

I supplement these activities by doing some modest one-on-one work arranged solely by word-of-mouth. And in a related way, I also volunteer in a mentoring program at a local suburban college, which is a wonderful experience.

So, the long and short of this posting is that my attitude; that positive perspective, combined with a strong desire to help people get better, still burns brightly and will continue to guide me to that as yet undefined next opportunity.

My chat with Barry has also inspired me to get on with doing my own blog; something I have been vacillating on for a while but, no more. My blog is currently under construction, no doubt to be followed by my own website where I hope to be able to share with others the earned wisdom of my experience to do with as they please. More to follow.

Thanks Barry!

And thank YOU, Wayne. Thank you VERY much!

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Wayne Gru is a Senior Operations Executive with proven leadership performance, transforming business operations. He has demonstrated experience in leading organizations through rapid change, and his strengths include: Strong communication and servicing skills and building customer-centric, multi-disciplined teams that exceed objectives.

Wayne is able to rapidly create an atmosphere of trust and simplify complex issues into manageable components. His diverse expertise includes building effective teams, due-diligence, integration; relationship management, financial operations, compliance, internal controls, project management and business systems.

Wayne Gru can be reached at waynejgru@yahoo.com or 815-355-4381. He’d appreciate hearing from you — even if it’s just to hello!

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Building Resilience Between Jobs

In its March 31, 2010 newsletter, TheLadders published my latest article, titled, Building Resilience Between Jobs.

Indeed, as the days turn into weeks … and months, it’s not unusual for the inherent stress and strain of a job search to start wearing you down – mentally, physically and emotionally. And, for many, that emotional component is the most debilitating, according to a December New York Times/CBS News poll of the unemployed:

“Nearly half of the adults surveyed admitted to feeling embarrassed or ashamed most of the time or sometimes as a result of being out of work. Perhaps unsurprisingly, given the traditional image of men as breadwinners, men were significantly more likely than women to report feeling ashamed most of the time.”

There’s no shame in this. It simply is what it is. But what CAN a executive-level job seeker do to increase the odds of NOT feeling embarrassed or ashamed while out of work? What steps can you take to re-energize your job search, confidence and dignity?

Read the full article, via the link above or at: http://ggci.com/Articles/TheLadders-2010-03-26.htm, to find out!

And for other articles I’ve written for TheLadders:http://theladders.com/career-search?contentSearchKeyword=zweibel&fromSearch=true.

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Connecting Better

A very interesting chart was published in this week’s Business Week magazine (March 8, 2010) diagramming how ex-Google employees are helping to finance a whole new generation of startups.

What made it doubly interesting (to me, anyway) is what it says about networking:

  1. What we talk about with the people we ‘interact’ with (our “contacts”) is one thing, but what we talk about with the people we ‘connect’ with (our “connections”) is usually far more meaningful, engaging, and productive.
  2. It’s easier to ‘connect’ with someone when we know what they’re up to — after all, that’s where their focus and attention already is!

So I’m making a diagram of my own – one that looks at the things my contacts are focusing on.

And you know what? I’ve already started noticing some interesting patterns and areas of overlap that weren’t apparent to me before. I’ve also noticed that my conversations with them are feeling far more meaningful, engaging, and productive, too.

Now how about THAT?!

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